Dreams Only Come True…

January 27, 2009

…If you know how to dream! Dario (My Husband) and I are trying to dream up something big- or rather find the big dreams buried deep within ourselves. I am a big dreamer, I’ve always been told that I can do whatever I choose to do, that I can make my dreams come true. I have never been limited in my imagination, but the consequence of being so wide open is that I panic I might not pick the right dream. Some people such as my husband are much different in their approach- they don’t dare dream big because it’s so unlikely that it will ever happen, so they limit themselves to the practical and rational ideas. Whatever kind of dreamer you are, I have come up with a few tools that might help anyone wanting to find that perfect dream nested within themselves.

Quest 1.

Instead of stressing out about the details, ignore them at first. Look at the big picture that we often bypass. It’s like a drawing. You would never start sketching out someones nose hairs before attempting to capture the general shape of the face. So start looking at the lifestyle you want to live, the qualities of life you want to have, the feelings you want to feel each day etc. It looks like this for me: I want to live in harmony with nature, meaning my lifestyle would follow the seasons and the sun and the moon. I want my home to be a center of cultural activity where talented artists and musicians and philosophers come to my home where it acts as a center possibly for the community, at the very least an educational experience for our future kids. I will need phases of activity and rest because I like a balance of both. Can you see where I am going with this? Starting to get the feeling of my dream life.

Slowly by doing this the blurry picture starts to get crisper and the details start to fill in. How would I live in harmony with nature working 9-5 in Manhattan? What happens now is you will immediately know if an opportunity that comes by is in alignment with your bigger picture or not. You also figure out what is most important in your life (usually quality not quantity) and you are able to be more open to different options. You may find you can see several situations that would all fit your dream- The qualities I described could be a description of a farmer, a sailor, a volunteer in Africa etc. From here, you can start to take it where you want to to find the details, always double-checking and researching if it matches the bigger picture.

Quest 2.

Dare to dream without your editor. Make a conscious decision to stop being so serious about the whole thing and go to the extreme. This is like a warm-up exercises, not the actual race. What is the craziest dream you ever had that you knew would never happen for a variety of reasons? I asked Dario this and his answer was: A Rock Star. So laugh at yourself, make fun and have fun. Now you’ve got to plan it out to the minutest detail you can think of- go an a fantasy journey. It starts like this: So you want to be a rock star, well… first you need to figure out what instrument you’ll play: ‘Guitar’. Great! Which one? ‘Fender..’ Ok- are you playing solo or in a band? You’ll have to find your band mates, any ideas on them? Now what kind of music? Are you doing concerts or just records? ‘Conerts’ Well, you probably won’t be big to start off, so you’ll have to start off in some smaller gigs- which ones would you go for at first? blah blah blah. Let yourself let go completely for 24 hours or a week or however long you need to play with it, daydream with it. Now here’s the trick. You do this with other dreams, slowly working your way down to reality but keeping the same no-stress fun attitude about it because after all, it’s not going to happen anyway, will it? Until finally you pick a crazy thought: Start a winery in Argentina for example. And all of a sudden your mind is working in the details and it’s not that hard after all…it’s not so far off actually…. actually this could really happen!


2 Responses to “Dreams Only Come True…”

  1. Dario said

    Soon you are going to have quite a few adepts. Are you starting a cult or something? – Ha

  2. Dario said


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